I can’t remember exactly when I first met Ken, although I
can place a rough time and an exact place: around 1990-1 in the Labour Club in
Lewisham. I seem to recall Ken had just moved up from Brighton and there were a
lot of fellow Brightonians who drank there.
He was an enigma, a man who it was hard to pigeonhole and
impossible to dislike. He moved in circles, which sometimes overlapped. It’s
always a joy to talk with someone who knows both how to discuss and understands
where you are coming from even if they don’t agree with you. Ken was that man
(to be fair, at that time in the Lewisham Labour Club there were probably
several people who could also be described this way).
He told us he was ill last autumn. It was easy to see
something was up – he lost weight and stopped drinking and smoking, at least
for a bit. It was also obvious it was pretty serious, though I was not
expecting the sudden decline, barely six months later that has robbed us of
him. Sometime after Christmas, he hinted he’d like to go bird-watching again –
something we’d done in the past but hadn’t fitted into our busy schedules for a
while. It was on my mental to do list – probably somewhere along the North Kent
marshes or the RSPB place at Rainham. As you can guess, events overtook it. We talked
about birds when we last spoke, just a few days ago. Occasionally he could see
one above the trees from his hospital window. I had seen the first swift of the
year the day before, on my way to the pub, screeching high up, sickle-shapes
against a vivid sky that promised storms and worse; but no matter, I defy
anyone not to have their spirits raised by the first swift of spring. At the
pub I saw Abi, Ken’s daughter, and learnt the gravity of the situation. Of
course, Ken was expecting the swifts to have arrived. “Always see them by May
14th.”
Birds were not his specialist subject, but he still knew an
awful lot. Botany and microbiology were specialisms. But his interests were far
and wide. Politics, history, science, computing, religion: being with Ken
(which usually meant drinking with Ken) was like being with a one-man
curriculum. He even got into football, late, going along to Millwall like a
good proportion of the regulars in our local. He was interested in so much,
that ability to go off at a tangent is something I probably share. Good for
solving problems, not so if you want how to solve it documented.
He could also appreciate and play music. He would pick up an
instrument and get a sound out of it that made you think he’d been doing it for
ages. Then he’d put it down again and wander off in search of something else.
He had a broad knowledge of the stuff he knew, whether it was classical, folk
or lovers’ rock: not a combination anyone would expect, unless they’d met Ken.
Obviously, we had our disagreements. On politics, his
attachment to Labour was tribal: his dad had been a councillor and it was
obvious that Blair’s warmongering was something that personally pained him. His
socialism was not revolutionary, but what revolutionaries sometimes miss is
that behaving decently to other human beings that disagree with you is actually
a good idea. Nor did I ever know him not stand up for his principles.
On football, we supported teams who were rivals; though I
have to say personally I’ve no particular beef against Millwall. Religion was
perhaps our biggest disagreement: I am a humanist and atheist; Ken was a devout
Evangelical Anglican. I won’t pretend I understand the doctrinal differences
between the various strands of Christianity. And I won’t pretend that I wasn’t
surprised that someone with a rational, scientific background such as Ken could
also be a believer. But he was and somehow reconciled it in a way that was a
good advert for Christianity. He was tolerant and had theological reasons for
disagreeing with other believers, often the sort of Christians which are so
easy for people like me to caricature.
We disagreed on a lot, but always respectfully. It was a pleasure
to disagree with him as I always learnt something.
As I said, circles. It’s funny how they overlap. Through
work, politics, birds, sport, beer, talking to the early hours. He was an avid
reader particularly of science fiction. I sent him a story, it seemed like I
would always get a chance to ask him what he thought about it. Alas, no.
Farewell, friend, comrade, companion.
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